Lately, I'm asking God how to really love. Hatred isn't the antithesis of love; apathy is.
I've never been able to understand how we could possibly have a passive response to God, when we find out who we were, and Who He is.
Pity is not love.
Certainly lust is not love- in fact, even infatuation is counterfeit intimacy.
Only Love which Jesus (Yeshua Ha Mashiach) demonstrated in dying to become the Pesach (Passover) Lamb; the Bridge to God, is Real Love- no strings attached- no amount of being "good enough" will do; being good enough doesn't send one to heaven anymore than being "bad enough" sends people to hell. The only Way to God is to just believe in what He has done; just Faith.
Read about His Plan- Isaiah 53 (Yesha-Yahu in Hebrew), et. al.